On Friday, my daughter took me to downtown Atlanta for a fun day at a cute little spa where we got a pedicure and a manicure. She had purchased this treat for me as a Christmas gift when she found an online special for a 75% discount on their services. So not only did we have a delightful time, she didn't have to spend a lot of money on it! That made it even better. The spa had only been open for a few months and overlooked a water fall spilling into a small pool, which made it all the more relaxing. It was a gorgeous day, with lots of sunshine. Spring came out to play that day!
We are smack-dab in the middle of preparations for her May wedding, so it was a nice diversion from wedding details! I have enjoyed all the planning for the wedding, but it was nice to relax for a little while without having to make any decisions except for what color to polish our toenails!
This was probably one of the last days that we would spend together just hanging out before she becomes a married woman. I couldn't help but remember her sweet childhood and look in awe at the wonderful young woman that she has become. It was a bittersweet day. When I left her I thought of all the marital wisdom that I wanted to impart before her big day.
As I reflected, I hoped that she looked at her Dad and I as good role models for marriage. We aren't perfect and our marriage is far from perfect, but we made a choice 26 years ago that we would give it everything we had.
Here are the things I want to share with her regarding marriage:
- God has to be invited into the marriage in order for it to work.
- Your husband is the head of the family.
- Marriage will be one of the hardest things you will ever do, it takes work.
- You have to love your husband above yourself.
- Never go to bed angry with each other.
- You will have arguments, this is inevitable.
- Be forgiving, don't hang on to little hurts.
- Your husband is only human.
- You must show him respect. It is one of the most important things to a man.
- You have to choose to love him every day, even when he leaves the toilet seat up.
- Marriage is wonderful.