On Friday, my daughter took me to downtown Atlanta for a fun day at a cute little spa where we got a pedicure and a manicure. She had purchased this treat for me as a Christmas gift when she found an online special for a 75% discount on their services. So not only did we have a delightful time, she didn't have to spend a lot of money on it! That made it even better. The spa had only been open for a few months and overlooked a water fall spilling into a small pool, which made it all the more relaxing. It was a gorgeous day, with lots of sunshine. Spring came out to play that day!
We are smack-dab in the middle of preparations for her May wedding, so it was a nice diversion from wedding details! I have enjoyed all the planning for the wedding, but it was nice to relax for a little while without having to make any decisions except for what color to polish our toenails!
This was probably one of the last days that we would spend together just hanging out before she becomes a married woman. I couldn't help but remember her sweet childhood and look in awe at the wonderful young woman that she has become. It was a bittersweet day. When I left her I thought of all the marital wisdom that I wanted to impart before her big day.
As I reflected, I hoped that she looked at her Dad and I as good role models for marriage. We aren't perfect and our marriage is far from perfect, but we made a choice 26 years ago that we would give it everything we had.
Here are the things I want to share with her regarding marriage:
- God has to be invited into the marriage in order for it to work.
- Your husband is the head of the family.
- Marriage will be one of the hardest things you will ever do, it takes work.
- You have to love your husband above yourself.
- Never go to bed angry with each other.
- You will have arguments, this is inevitable.
- Be forgiving, don't hang on to little hurts.
- Your husband is only human.
- You must show him respect. It is one of the most important things to a man.
- You have to choose to love him every day, even when he leaves the toilet seat up.
- Marriage is wonderful.
14 comments:
What a beautiful record of a beautiful day!
I think I would add, you MUST respect him. Men thrive on it.
You have raised a wonderful daughter and she will make a beautiful bride.
Love ya,
Leah
Leah, I should have put respect, It is a very important part of marriage! I am going to amend my list!
Man!! A spa day AND a discount? Way to go!!!
I would add: keep a 'journal' of the reason you love him every day. This will help keep the small, petty stuff in perspective. It really helps on those days you'd rather choke him than love him!
I kind of started this about 6 months ago; but have since been sidetracked. I started each day with, "I love you today because ________." It doesn't have to be anything grand and in depth. It could be "Today I love you because you remembered to put the toilet seat down!!"
Shhhh, my man never knew I started it, and i will begin agin and present him with it one of these days.
So glad you had a wonderful day together!!!
Love you both!!!
I saw you at Joyce's blog and wanted to say HI.
Great post and love your list...so very true. How fun that y'all had that time together before her wedding. It sounds like it's in a peaceful setting too.
I used to live in GA and loved visiting the Ga mtns! It is so pretty up there.
bless...shell
These days are the best, so glad you had beautiful weather for your special day....
Thank you for the first amendment. LOL.
What a special day...best wishes on your daughter's upcoming marriage!
Cindy, I loved this post so much! What a sweet time and a great memory made! And GREAT advice for her future marriage!
Hope your week is going well.
Marilyn...in Mississippi
Krista, the journal is a great idea!
Oh, Cindy, how precious! Great marriage advice, too! Can't wait to see those beautiful wedding pics!
What a sweet time you all must have had together Cindy. I love hearing about the discount too - it just makes it all the more enjoyable, doesn't it? What wonderful wisdom you have to share with your daughter. Blessings to you both during this time of planning and preparation for the big day.
Love and hugs,
Lora
Hi, Cindy! It was so good to hear from you!
What a beautiful day you had! A blessing!
Your daughter will indeed make a beautiful bride, as Leah has said. And, your sharing about marriage with her will give her such support and wisdom.
Many blessings to you, my Georgia friend. I'm thinking of the mountains there right now. :)
Andrea
Precious memories created between the two of you! Beautiful...
Blessings upon your entire family.
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